Marriage between a man and a woman is God’s design, and it is good! In Genesis 1, we see that God formed man from the dust of the earth; and in Genesis 2:22-24, Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said,“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Marriage can be a fulfilling and positive commitment, yet many people give up and walk away when faced with challenges, especially after the honeymoon phase. After over 20 years of marriage, I’ve felt like I wanted to walk away. Not because my husband isn’t a good man, but because two individuals with different backgrounds and perspectives coming together in covenant to build a life that pleases God can be stressful if we are not intentional about making our marriage work. The challenges of marriage can feel overwhelming if we don’t keep God at the center and put in the effort to make it beautiful. There are so many things we can do to have a successful marriage, amongst them are praying together and for each other. Oh, those are big things because if the devil can get you and your spouse to live in disunity, argue and be annoyed at each other, chances are you won’t want to pray together or want to pray for each other.
The reality is that numerous factors can threaten our marriages, particularly the well-being of our husbands, who are the leaders of our homes. As wives, we should remember that our husbands may not always be as strong as we are, so we must pray for them. Honestly, I find marriage to be challenging at times. It takes much to have a successful marriage, but I’ve learned amongst many other things the art of taking everything to God in prayer, and no, I don’t mean telling God to change my husband alone but also asking God to help me to be a better wife. Let’s be intentional about praying for our marriages and our husbands. Just like us, they have fears, worries, and anxieties and carry a lot on their shoulders. Let’s not spend time arguing with our husbands. Life is too short not to enjoy it.
2nd Corinthians 10: 4-6 reminds us that the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but they are mighty through God to the pulling down of every stronghold. Today, I want to encourage you to use the weapons of prayer and the Word of the Living God to assassinate and annihilate every plan of the enemy concerning your marriage and husband.
Let Us Pray!
Father, as I come to you today on behalf of my husband, first, let me thank you for the gift of marriage. Lord, you took a rib from Adam’s side and created a helpmeet suitable for him as a woman because you said it’s not good for a man to be alone. That transaction signified unity and the two becoming one. Lord, I pray and ask you in the name of Jesus Christ to bind us together with cords that cannot be broken. Your Word says in Mark 10:9, “What God has joined together, let no man separate.” I bind every plan of the enemy to separate me from my husband.
You said in Proverbs 18:22, He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Thank you, Lord, for calling me a good thing. May this grace called favor always sit upon my husband’s head.
Lord, I thank you for my husband. You have set him as the head of our home and placed him as my covering, protector, provider, priest, and leader. Father, I pray and ask you in the name of Jesus Christ to help my husband understand his role in the home and society and walk in it.
PRAY FOR HIS HEAD
1st Corinthians 11:3 says that the head of man is Christ. Ephesians 5:23 says the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church.
Father, please help my husband understand that being the head doesn’t mean ruling with an iron fist. Father, I ask you in the name of Jesus Christ to help him to understand that being the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church means, amongst many other things, to love unconditionally, to cherish, to provide, to protect, to nurture, to forgive, as love keeps no record of wrongs according to 1st Corinthians 13.
Father, I ask You in Jesus Christ’s name to help my husband to always follow You and be obedient to You with his whole heart so I can follow him as he follows Christ. Lord, even though my husband bears many responsibilities, help me to remember that I am the neck on which the head sits. Just as the neck supports the head’s weight, I must not leave my husband to figure things out for himself. Instead, I should actively support and help him in every way possible.
Lord, please protect and strengthen my husband daily. Whenever the cares of life and the weight of his responsibilities overwhelm him, please help him to always look up to you first for help. You never asked him to carry the world’s weight upon his shoulder, so please help him whenever he cries out to you for help. Please help me to create a safe space and a loving home for my husband so he can feel free to come to me without fear to share his feelings and innermost thoughts, especially in difficult times. I declare that he will never lay his head on Delia’s lap for comfort, in Jesus Name!
Lord, help me understand that I should not only pray when things are going wrong or when I want my own way. Instead, I should make it a habit to pray daily for my husband. Father, I acknowledge that I can’t do this without You.
PRAY FOR HIS EYES
In Job 31:1, Job declares, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”
Lord, I pray for my husband’s eyes. Help him to remember Psalm 101:3, “I will set nothing wicked before my eyes,” and 1 Thessalonians 5:22, “Shun the very appearance of evil.” I ask you, Father, to help my husband keep his eyes pure, resisting all temptations that might come his way. Let him echo Joseph’s words: “How can I do this wicked thing and sin against my God?” I declare that my husband’s eyes are healthy, and his whole body is full of light.
Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, I ask You to help my husband walk in obedience to Your word, for obedience brings blessings. As the priest of our home, please empower him to demonstrate through his lifestyle that it pays to obey You.
PRAYER FOR HIS MOUTH
James 1:19-20 reminds us, “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: you must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”
When my husband gets mad during a disagreement, Lord, please help him listen carefully and refrain from letting words fly in the heat of the moment. Our words hold power—they can either uplift or tear down.
Lord, I ask for your help in this area too as Proverbs 15:1 tells us that “a soft answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” Sometimes, we often hurt each other with our words. Please help my husband to be slow to anger and be quick to listen in every situation, as Your word teaches us that anger does not lead to righteousness and that anger rests in the bosom of fools.
Furthermore, James 3:1-10 describes the tongue as unruly, so Lord, I ask you to help my husband be mindful of his words in every situation.
PRAY FOR HIS SHOULDER
1 Peter 5:7 NLT says give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.
Lord, when times are difficult, help my husband to unload the cares of life upon you and not to be frustrated and angry as you did not ask him to carry the weight of the world upon his shoulder. Help him not to worry about tomorrow but to earnestly praŷ and seek Your face more, especially when difficult times arise. Father in Jesus’ name, I ask you to help my husband put his trust, hope, and confidence in you.
Jeremiah 17:7 says that blessed are all those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence.
Father, I ask you in the name of Jesus Christ to give my husband the courage to face every day and help him to remember you are near.
Isaiah 41:10 says do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Father, in the name of Jesus Christ I ask you, to let my husband learn to take comfort in your words.
PRAY FOR HIS ARMS AND HANDS
Father, in the name of Jesus Christ I ask you to strengthen my husband’s arms and hands daily so that he can do the work that you have called him to do. Help him not to see work as a burden but rather cause him to enjoy the fruit of his labor, according to Proverbs 3:22.
Bless the work of my husband’s hands so they can take care of the family well and have more than enough to share and leave an inheritance for our children and generations following. Let my husband never be out of a job, as you have called him to be a provider; in Jesus’ name, I pray.
PRAY FOR HIS LEGS AND FEET
Father. I pray Psalm 1 over my husband and declare that he is a blessed man. Please help my husband to walk in the will of God for his life and help him not to go where you have not sent him. Let his legs be strong for this journey of life. Lord, lead him and cause him to follow you so he can lead his family as the Lord leads. Oh Lord, let his feet be shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace according to Ephesians 6:15 because, as the priest, he should always have the word in his heart and on his lips to speak destiny, life-giving words over his family and the life of others.
Lord, please watch over my husband in all his ways. Help me never to stop praying for him. Just as You took a rib from Adam’s side to create a woman, I ask that You help me remain by his side and cover him in prayer daily. In Jesus’ name, I ask for all these blessings and more. Amen!
Please note that this prayer can be used daily as a guide to pray for your husband. And you can pray as the Holy Spirit leads you to cover other areas of his life.